Observe.

This is the fundamental principle behind male privilege, and behind any privilege. A man does not have to fight a cultural or societal norm to believe that he counts just as much as every other human being. A man never expects that he will be seen as less than another’s equal because of his sex. He does not have to adjust the world to make room for himself; the world is adjusted with him in mind. I believe the constant adjustment women must make adds an unparalleled psychological burden in the process of identity formation. I must gather my own evidence to believe that I am as valuable as a man, and accept the fact that even after I believe that, most of the people that I meet will not see it that way. That takes a lot of work, and that work changes you.

— Julie Dworman, On Being One of the Guys: An Analysis of Ingrained Sexism (via thisismaleprivilege)

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I consider myself a feminist male. I don't go around telling every woman this because there are men who say this, expecting exclamations of "oh, that's so sweet!" But when I am asked my opinions by feminists of mine, I am sometimes told that I can't ever be a real feminist as a male and that my opinions on the matter are invalid because I don't experience what they do. I understand this, but I feel it sets a bad example to tell men they can not have opinions and alienates the listener. Thoughts? from ainsleyharriottmylordandsavior

To ainsleyharriottmylordandsavior, the asker, my response: 

thisismaleprivilege:

Well a feminist is someone who believes in equality for men and women, and if you agree with that then you are a ‘real feminist’, no matter what anyone else says.

I do think that if you’re not a woman you don’t really get an opinion when it comes to things that affect women and things in feminism, because you’re not affected by certain things and you don’t experience the things we experience as women.

For example, I wouldn’t feel “alienated” if a trans* person says that cisgender people don’t get an opinion on something concerning trans* people because I’m cisgender and I haven’t experienced the things trans* people have experienced, so my job as a cis person is to listen to what trans* people have to say, to listen to their experiences and not make it about me, the same goes with men and feminism or able-bodied/neurotypical people and disabled people.

I feel it sets a bad example to tell men they can not have opinions and alienates the listener.

This sentence here, to me, is highly reminiscent of one way that women are oppressed by society: our opinions are dismissed, discredited, and effectively silenced in most cases, and I for one do feel alienated when I have experienced this.  I’m not sure what “example” you think is being set here, or who this example is supposed to be for.  For men?  That then seems to imply that women telling men not to speak would influence men to then tell others (women, I suppose?) not to speak.  In my experience that already happens, so if this is what you mean then women setting this “bad example” for men is entirely moot.  Actually, if this is what you mean, then I have to say, it rather reeks of privilege, so I hope that’s not what you meant.  If on the other hand you mean that women telling men not to speak sets a bad example for other women, then…please clarify your thoughts on this.  

My answer to your ask would be this.  First, like anyone, it is of course your right to have an opinion.  However, I would say that depending on what community you are speaking to/within, and what topic you are speaking about, your opinion may indeed be less valid than others’.  For example, if you are speaking to women about women’s experiences, then I consider your opinion less valid than a woman’s on the same topic.  Also, in such a scenario, I find it entirely possible that some of the women listening to you speak may feel that what you are doing is intrusive, that it is a manifestation of your male privilege.  In such a situation, it may be better that you take on the role of a listener instead. 

In other words, context is very important.  A topic I would like your opinion on is masculinity (masculinity studies) in relation to feminism; I’d like to hear about your experiences there.  


stvincentinexile:

If you are part of a privileged group and have to constantly demand that somebody in an oppressed group say “not all (insert privileged group here) are like that” 

what you are really demanding is that they reassure you that you’re not like that and you’re not being held accountable 

which is a cowardly thing to do and also shows the great lengths you will go to in order to avoid examining your role in a toxic system

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My mistrust [of men] is not, as one might expect, primarily a result of the violent acts done on my body, nor the vicious humiliations done to my dignity. It is, instead, born of the multitude of mundane betrayals that mark my every relationship with a man—the casual rape joke, the use of a female slur, the careless demonization of the feminine in everyday conversation, the accusations of overreaction, the eye rolling and exasperated sighs in response to polite requests to please not use misogynist epithets in my presence.

(via nadiaaboulhosn)

#i have a hard time dating men because i have a hard time believing men respect me

(via underwaternow)

Pretty much. 

(via fuckingrapeculture)

Fucking shit fuck.  I agree with this.  

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albinwonderland:

jopara:

littleladyluna:

little-girl-muffin:

methcafe:

I look up to laverne cox so hard 

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I always love re-blogging Laverne Cox. Not only because of her eloquence, intelligence, kindness, and beauty, but also because her voice might be one of the most important in the fight against hatred in the U.S.A. today. What she has to say is crucial to the growth, peace, prosperity, and freedom of all of us. If you have the time, please watch this video. 

everyone needs to take seven minutes and watch this. 

This is really important. Watch it.

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The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything.

— Scott Wood (X)

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teenwifelife:

ally-of-villains:

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teenwifelife:

ally-of-villains:

davejade:

ATTENTION: if you see a post like this, IT IS A SCREAMER. DO NOT CLICK THE LINK.

The screamer includes a black and white flashy gif maximized to fit your browser and a very loud piercing screech noise. If in any way this can trigger you, please be aware and reblog to signal boost.

thankyou ohmygod a friend linked me this literally 2 minutes ago and i was about to click it and i would’ve had a seizure you saved my life ohmygod im so grateful

Just in case I have any followers with epilepsy like myself. Stay safe!

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